There's been this stress sort of creeping around since I lost my job, and the stress is:
on my end - I'm terrified of doing a crap job
on his end - anger that I'm terrified of rejection
There's a slight distinction there. He thinks I'm afraid of being rejected, which maybe on some level I am, but the real problem is that I haven't been busting my butt to get new jobs because I'm afraid of not doing a good job. And also, because in my heart of hearts, I want to be lazy. Thus a new stresser between us:
on my end - I think it's okay to be lazy
on his end - he is terrified of rest
So, what is a couple at odds to do? Encourage each other anyway. You've rested more because of me, and that's okay because rest is good (it is, buddy). And I've changed a ton because of you, because I'm not a raging, callous, stubborn maniac anymore. All is well.
But still, that insecurity. I decided to just go for it today, and I have him to thank.